embrace your strengths

Are you still hiding the REAL YOU?

Is there some part of the REAL you that you mask or hide or mentally beat yourself up over because you’ve internalized the message that this part of yourself makes you defective, unlovable, or unacceptable?

Perhaps you’ve decided you need to live small because someone told you:

“You’re too loud.”
“You’re weird.”
“You’re a disappointment.”
“Why can’t you be (something than you are)?”


As a kid, I was often told to shut up because I was always asking annoying, “But, why?” questions. That if I were smarter, I would have been able to figure out the answers. My dad even joked that when God was passing out brains, I thought He said trains, and I must have said, “Make mine a slow one.” #ouch

The sting of that comment stuck. I internalized it as the truth, even though I HATED it. From that point on I continually compared myself to others, even going so far as to identify and rank the really “dumb” kids at school, to try to feel superior. When they got laughed at, a part of me celebrated that I appeared higher in the genetic pool. How screwed up is that??!

Swallowing the belief that I was dumb sabotaged my self-confidence, made me shy around people, gave me performance anxiety in school, and turned me into a people-pleaser AND perfectionist. I worked REALLY HARD to be liked and competent, so that people wouldn’t mind that my train wasn’t charging full-steam ahead. 

(Actually, my train was chugging along just fine, which I finally began to realize in my 20s. I just needed to allow my brain to breathe, and discover its strengths, rather than keep it in lock-down mode because of my fear of being further ridiculed.)

Have YOU ever been afraid of authentically showing up, because you'd rather have a root canal than be viewed as an idiot?

As adults, so many of us continue to hide and live small because of our limiting beliefs. And we continue playing the comparing game — if only to gain a brief break from the negative spewing of our internal Judge. BUT OUR JUDGE (I call mine “Deathstar.”) IS A LIAR. And it wants full control. We must learn to politely dismiss it, to make it small.

The critical point we miss as kids: What another person thinks about us is THEIR OPINION, not FACT. And it’s certainly NOT the measure of our VALUE.

I wish we could simply pluck labels and beliefs off our skin like leeches and throw them in the trash where they belong. But we can’t. We have to do the harder work of identifying the thoughts and beliefs that we should not have bought into — and continue to live out — because they aren’t who we really are.


I help women to courageously work on their thoughts, beliefs, and habits to create a life they love. As they do this important work, they SHOW UP and step into Superhero mode. Learning to diminish the voice of their internal Judge and other mental saboteurs is a key component of this empowerment process. Would you like to do the same?

Start YOUR hero journey TODAY.

I’d love to chat with you to see if I can help you get to where you want to go. Half the battle is FIGURING out that destination and making a plan. But, ultimately, it comes down to your taking ACTION.

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