I once received an email from a woman in her fifties. “I feel like a bird in a cage,” she shared. “Open the door,” I replied. “You have the power.” “No, it’s locked,” she typed back, “and I don’t have the key.”
That's when I started focusing on mindset.
Because her lack of belief in her personal power made me really sad. For her, but also for me. Because I realized that I was holding identical thoughts in some areas of my own life. In my limping marriage, certainly, but also in my agency to design my own life. The “story” in my brain repeatedly told me that I was a Nobody. “Who are you to expect more?” it taunted.
The messages I got as a kid: I was dumb. A disappointment. Unworthy. These labels shaped my self-identity. For decades.
I began to resent the idea that I was a Nobody. I wanted to be a Somebody that I really liked and admired. But this I know to be true: We can’t live beyond our self-identity. So, to up-level, we are forced to risk jettisoning our current beliefs and thinking/feeling patterns, to adopt new, expanded ones.
And this can feel really hard … UNTIL we realize that we’ve always held the power to CHOOSE our beliefs and self-identity. No one’s holding a gun to our head … right?
And once we feel empowered in our identity, we can CREATE lives we love!
New beliefs > New actions > New outcomes > Desired Future Self
My Coaching Philosophy:
- We are born to flourish as heroes, not hide or live as victims.
- Comfort zones are for resting between our heroic adventures.
- We need both truth-tellers and cheerleaders in our communities.
- We are born with only two fears. We choose the other fears we hold.
- Beliefs are just decisions. So we can decide to change our beliefs.
- We remove our limiting beliefs by identifying our resistance.
- If we don’t intentionally create our lives, someone else’s agenda will.
- We release old resentments to clear old, stubborn, limiting beliefs.
- It’s the meaning we give the experience, not the experience itself that causes us suffering. So we have power over how much we suffer.
- We master emotional self-regulation to amplify our personal powerful.
- Our desire + Our non-resistance = Our desired outcome.
- Our Future Selves are counting on us taking action NOW.
Together we can work on your:
Self-sabotage | Resistance | Fear of failure or success | Limbo | Shame | Boundaries | Emotional triggering | Vulnerability | Courage | Resilience | Habits | Future Self design & accountability
What you think and believe matters!